Writing in general can be difficult for some. Writing about yourself or a difficult time in your life can be even harder. Some people are reluctant to express their feelings on paper because they think it makes them seem self-indulgent or they are afraid of what the results will be once it’s written down. Why do we make it so hard on ourselves to be open and honest, even when it comes to our own stories?
When struggling with tough situations in my life I have often turned to the power of the pencil. Writing down my angry or sad thoughts felt somewhat cathartic. The power came from letting the words spill out onto the paper just as they came out of my head. At first it may not make sense to someone reading “my words “but in this instance it doesn’t need to. I believe it is the single act of bringing the words out into the open that allows you to clear your emotional space enough to move forward in your regular life in some way. When you write honestly and unreservedly, not only about the events in your life but also about your feelings, you unburden yourself of emotions that bog you down and keep you from accomplishing what you want to accomplish or being the sort of person you’d really like to be.
Recently I was communicating with a woman as she was creating a new campaign on our Move Your Mountain.org website. I was walking her through creating a campaign but she seemed hesitant when it came to writing her story. After a few minutes of back and forth, I finally said to her, “Are you having difficulties writing Your Story?” Her reply was simple, “Yes. It is very painful and I hate reliving all the details.”Haven’t we all felt that way at some point when we faced hardship or experienced a difficult life event? I told her that I understood how difficult this might be for her, but once her words were on the paper, she can walk away from it. I instructed her to put it all down, every last thought and feeling. We can edit and spell check later, I told her. Right now, just write what you feel and what comes from your heart.
I knew that these instructions were easier said than done. And that I wasn’t going through what she was experiencing. But I promised her that once her story was written, the hard part was over. Once the words were out there in the open, then through this fundraiser, she could focus on healing and a brighter future. Now all those people in her corner, waiting to offer support and help would be ready to begin the fundraising process and hold her hand through her ordeal.
Writing or telling YOUR story is an incredible vehicle to find your voice or discover who you are…not only that, but it will help you work through that difficult time in your life… Writing your feelings allows you to air them out, rather than pushing them inside and holding onto frustration, or stress, or fear or doubt that may be holding you back from moving forward. When you share your story with others, you allow others to be part of your struggle, to take on some of your pain in a positive way. Ever think that maybe there is someone who has already experienced what you are going through? They may have solutions to offer you or words of advice. Or maybe they know you just need someone to hold your hand or give you a hug. Regardless, they may be your light at the end of that dark tunnel and just what you need to come out on the other side. Besides sharing your story with others, allowing them to GIVE to you, whether financially or emotionally is a huge blessing to them. It reminds people to live each day to the fullest and be thankful for what you have.
Of course people’s experiences are all going to be different. But I can promise you this when you start the process of telling your story you will quickly learn that you are not alone in what you are feeling. It is important to honor yourself, by honoring your feelings and thoughts. They are YOURS. You need to own them and whether you grow or overcome from your situation is then up to you. #MoveYourMtn